How to feel very Un-Sexy and Blah Mommy

Currently Craving: a Nap probably

How to feel very Un-sexy and instead all Blah Mommy..... Try putting on a Nursing Bra! i mean, come on... at least make them in leopard print or something more fun that black, white, and nude.

ok. i guess i'll back up.

as i mentioned earlier, max was away for the weekend in ohio. knowing that him being away for almost a week leaving me alone would not be a good thing at this point i invited my mom to come in and visit. her main tasks were to 1. keep me company and 2. help me shop for nursing supplies. since we figured out that she nursed for something like 9 YEARS (!) i guessed she might just be the expert to help with this one. (i do have to say that i am grateful both that she nursed me and that she nursed my sibs. me because i have a kick-ass immune system and my sibs because at least i've SEEN what normal nursing looks like and will be able to replicate that when the time comes... very soon)

So on saturday after getting manicure/pedicures (super treat) we headed out to the nursing supplies shop run by bon secours (one of the big health systems here in RVA). we were the only ones there and the lady was very kind. she measured me and fit me in regular bras, sleep bras, and a 'sport' bra. we found my size and i bought several along with nursing pads. and it's all fine. the real plus in this is that these actually FIT and so they feel a lot better than the ones i'd been wearing and didn't bother changing. in addition... my cup size is at an all time high that i seriously never thought i'd reach. if this belly wasn't throwing everything out of proportion you'd be AMAZED. (maybe i should have let people know this might be a TMI type post, oh well)

but here come my complaints. first, i understand the need for support and coverage, i swear, and i know it's only going to be more needed when my milk actually comes in but i feel like it covers me from my collar bone to my belly button with no breathing room in between. and if that wasn't enough, my real problem is the fact that it seems that no one has even considered that a woman might feel like wearing a more colorful bra or something with a little fun to it. there is so much to be said about feeling like you look good and how that actually makes you feel better. i feel like these things say... (in a robot voice) ' you are a mom...... you must be frumpy.... you must be perpetually tired..... you must never be attractive again..... this child will drink you dry..... the world thinks you are ugly and invisible..... YOUR LIFE AS YOU KNEW IT IS OVER.... HA! HA! HA!!!!!' it just seems stupid to me that nobody else has thought of this!

now... two things do emerge. first. nursing tank tops. they have color and a bit more style. i didn't buy any of those but i did try some on and i know my size so i do plan to buy some. especially since i usually just live in that style tank tops anyways... now they'll just have a convertible feature.

and second. the internet. SOMEone actually has thought of sexier nursing bras and i bet they're doing pretty well. Condessa a shop out in LA (of course LA) offers bras in several pretty colors with matching undies and they have lace or smooth varieties. their whole idea is "Breastfeeding is Beautiful" and why shouldn't it be?? of course the bras cost $55 a piece and probably will be covered in slobber and milk all the time but at least you can feel prettier when you first put it on.

in another thought. max swears to me that he saw a billboard for a victoria's secret nursing bra somewhere along the line. but i have scanned their website and haven't found it. maybe they offer them in a select area like NYC or LA or something.. but so far they haven't made it to the RVA. oh well. maybe someday.

i think the problem is that people think because they are moms women can't be attractive anymore. we really have to change that!